It's funny how the little things can change the world for a kid, especially a kid with autism.
Nick has kept to the same obsessions for most of his life. Letters. Numbers. Street signs. Trains. Cranes. He'd build and create the most elaborate of structures, but they were always based on the same small cluster of obsessions. He'd write words on the walls with wiki sticks, write lines of numbers up to 100 with chalk, build trains and cranes and street signs with Legos and waffle blocks and Brio sets.
And then, last month, something new came into his world.
It wasn't a planned gift at all, more of a "here's some kid stuff I have lying around--do you think your kids would want it" sort of thing. But the haphazard re-gifting reshaped Nick's reality.
It was an inexpensive glider, the kind where the wings slide into a slit on the body. I gave it to Noah, thinking he'd enjoy using a rubber band to launch it . . . but Nick was drawn to it. Intensely drawn to it.
All of the sudden there was a burst of language tied to the airplane. He'd ask to go outside because that was where the plane was, and once outside he'd say "airpwane, airpwane" until I retrieved it. He couldn't figure out how to make the plane fly, so he'd bring it to me to throw. "Ready, steady, fly!" he'd say when he wanted to see it soar. Soon he added "high in the sky."
The airplane got dirty and lost its nose; it got covered in red when Nick had a nosebleed yet didn't want to relinquish his toy. Eventually the airplane died, never made to withstand the love of a five-year-old boy.
But Nick wasn't deterred. Yesterday he took his Brio blocks outside . . . and built his own airplane. Throughout the day he added detail after detail, making the plane come alive.
This morning, after Noah went off to school, Nick asked to go outside. It was one of those amazing November mornings that you get only in Arizona--the air was alive with the warmth of spring, ignoring everything the calendar had to say. Nick and I played in the sun, taking turns flying the plane. I'd run around, flying the plane throughout the yard, up and down, dip and turn, while Nick chased after me, laughing. "Airpwane fly, high in the sky!" he'd say as the plane pirouetted in the air.
Soon it was time to come inside and prepare for kindergarten. Nick brought his airplane inside with him, and when it was time to take a bath, the airplane joined him. When it was time to eat a snack, the airplane was on the table next to his plate. When it was time to go to the bus stop, the airplane came along, too.
It's probably the only Brio block airplane to ever follow a boy through an afternoon of kindergarten.
Others of us might have been deterred when our original airplane died. Having invested so much love into it, we might have lost ourselves in tears or tantrums (for there are adult versions of those). Nick inspires me: he found a new love, loved it with all his heart . . . and when he lost what he loved so much, he made his own airplane, one much more beautiful than anything anyone could have ever purchased, one so much more amazing than anyone could have imagined.
The beauty of loss--there is so much to gain from it.
Nick has kept to the same obsessions for most of his life. Letters. Numbers. Street signs. Trains. Cranes. He'd build and create the most elaborate of structures, but they were always based on the same small cluster of obsessions. He'd write words on the walls with wiki sticks, write lines of numbers up to 100 with chalk, build trains and cranes and street signs with Legos and waffle blocks and Brio sets.
And then, last month, something new came into his world.
It wasn't a planned gift at all, more of a "here's some kid stuff I have lying around--do you think your kids would want it" sort of thing. But the haphazard re-gifting reshaped Nick's reality.
It was an inexpensive glider, the kind where the wings slide into a slit on the body. I gave it to Noah, thinking he'd enjoy using a rubber band to launch it . . . but Nick was drawn to it. Intensely drawn to it.
All of the sudden there was a burst of language tied to the airplane. He'd ask to go outside because that was where the plane was, and once outside he'd say "airpwane, airpwane" until I retrieved it. He couldn't figure out how to make the plane fly, so he'd bring it to me to throw. "Ready, steady, fly!" he'd say when he wanted to see it soar. Soon he added "high in the sky."
The airplane got dirty and lost its nose; it got covered in red when Nick had a nosebleed yet didn't want to relinquish his toy. Eventually the airplane died, never made to withstand the love of a five-year-old boy.
But Nick wasn't deterred. Yesterday he took his Brio blocks outside . . . and built his own airplane. Throughout the day he added detail after detail, making the plane come alive.
This morning, after Noah went off to school, Nick asked to go outside. It was one of those amazing November mornings that you get only in Arizona--the air was alive with the warmth of spring, ignoring everything the calendar had to say. Nick and I played in the sun, taking turns flying the plane. I'd run around, flying the plane throughout the yard, up and down, dip and turn, while Nick chased after me, laughing. "Airpwane fly, high in the sky!" he'd say as the plane pirouetted in the air.
Soon it was time to come inside and prepare for kindergarten. Nick brought his airplane inside with him, and when it was time to take a bath, the airplane joined him. When it was time to eat a snack, the airplane was on the table next to his plate. When it was time to go to the bus stop, the airplane came along, too.
It's probably the only Brio block airplane to ever follow a boy through an afternoon of kindergarten.
Others of us might have been deterred when our original airplane died. Having invested so much love into it, we might have lost ourselves in tears or tantrums (for there are adult versions of those). Nick inspires me: he found a new love, loved it with all his heart . . . and when he lost what he loved so much, he made his own airplane, one much more beautiful than anything anyone could have ever purchased, one so much more amazing than anyone could have imagined.
The beauty of loss--there is so much to gain from it.
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